by Jeffrey Asher
7th July 2009
Over twelve years of teaching "Men’s Lives," I also wondered why majority-male legislatures, judiciaries and mainstream media editors, capitulated to and enforced feminist politics and jurisprudence.
Above all, men are powerfully driven by sexual attraction to women. Men easily rationalize their sexual need for women as based in intellectual and moral equality. Male protection of women and children - at the risk of men’s safety and lives - over millennia of social evolution, allowed our species to survive. I suspect that imperative is as integral to male brains and hormones, as the need for and care of children is integral to women.
Men in power did not accede to feminists because of sexual opportunism alone – women remain second to one in that category. When feminists – confused as representing women – called out to men for ‘equality,’ men entrenched quotas and feminist jurisprudence. A man shamed by a woman promptly takes corrective action, to ‘act like a Man’.
Most men did not expect feminists to lie. Nor did men account for female emotional volatility. Men did not expect feminists to sabotage the family. Men did not realize that the driving force behind feminism was activist female self-loathing and lesbian misandry, deliberately alienating girls and women from heterosexuality and the family.
Donna Laframboise in "The Princess at the Window," observed that in the feminist movement, the lunatic fringe had taken over the mainstream. Feminists terrorized women against men with abuse, assault and rape agitprop. And yes, too many men remain self-loathing feminists.
I suspect the above partially explains the reluctance of most men in power to oppose feminist opportunism, even after their own marriages are destroyed and their children torn asunder.
Sanford Braver, "Divorced Dads" (Putnam 1998 ISBN 0-87477-862- X): "A 1998 Gottman study (J. Marriage & Family, 1998) instructed: " ... men should forget all that psychobabble about active listening and validation. If you want your marriage to last for a long time, just do what your wife says." This discovery coincides with "... the loss of power in marriage that men have experienced over the last 40 years." (Page 140).
At the end of the day, most men hope to return home, to their wife and children, whom they love. That is a powerful restraint against male denunciation of feminist family destruction.
Submitted by redwoodwriter on Sat, 2009-07-11 20:52.
In America today, gender relations have gotten so far out of whack, so strangely contorted, so seriously anti-male, so unquestionably inequitable, that it has now become relatively easy to make a fact-based case for the evils of feminism. It is now necessary for men to overcome their training, to stand up for both themselves and for other men, to stop acting with chivalry, to stop being manipulated by women. Men need to reconnect with their sense of honor and justice, and this can then allow them to fight the fight that needs to be fought. Gender relations are getting more and more contorted, and out of whack, as time goes on, and all that new evidence will only further support our cause. Onward with the men's rights movement. Go with the flow, use the flow, know that the truth and the evidence is behind both us and the movement.
Submitted by trotter on Sun, 2009-07-12 14:01.
The article is well meant. However, to ascribe everything to men's powerful sexual drive is not the whole story. I am not even sure that our drive is just sexual. Rather I see it as a powerful need for women. This need transcend the sexual. I read that this need is just a craving we have for women's approval which has been inculcated into us. May be this is so but I don't know. Whatever the forces at work here there is more than just the need for sex. That need in itself is complicated. We don't discuss it much but I would argue that most of it is a need for acceptance and a desire to give rather than to receive pleasure.Those who say it is a cliché and a feminist stereotyping to characterize men as beasts driven an almost uncontrollable desire for sex are I think correct. We don't say this much but sex for a man is in fact not all that satisfying. Women want to think that it is like going to heaven many times over. Well that's just their arrogance. Sex is OK but not life changing or in the end that much of a high. Truth to say women get more out of sex than men do.